The ending of the year usually brings about reflections about the previous twelve month’s successes and setbacks. New Year’s resolutions and promises are all but forgotten by May but we often look back in December to figure out where we went off track. Sometimes this can turn into thinking that there is something wrong with us when in reality, it could be that we were expecting quick results without realizing the process needed to get what we want. Here are a few tips to stay on track in 2018:
1) Make small, attainable resolutions throughout the year instead of one resolution that requires drastic life changes.
We have tricked ourselves into thinking that resolutions only happen on January 1st and end on December 31st. Often times by Spring we are burned out because we have decided to make a lifestyle change that is completely different than anything we have been doing recently. For example, one might say that in 2018 I am going to be a vegan and go to the gym 6 days a week. That could be a big step for someone who currently doesn’t eat vegetables and doesn’t have any physical activity in their schedule. Instead, start with going to the gym 2-3 times a week and including at least one vegan dish in your meals during the week. Completing these smaller resolutions boosts confidence and motivates us to set new resolutions throughout the year.
2) Stop comparing yourself!
A little competition can be a good motivation to achieve something but too much of it can leave you anxious and depressed. Unless your resolution is “to be the best at resolutions” don’t compare your progress with someone else. Resolutions often involve tremendous amounts of energy and sacrifice. Even when the goal is small, it still can take time so don’t get too hard on yourself if you don’t see results overnight…OR the next night. Be patient.
3) Get support
Tell your friends and family about your resolutions so that they can encourage you as well as keep you accountable. They may even want to join you! We usually feel better when we accomplish things with others who share our same goals. For example, joining a gym class can accomplish two common resolutions of “exercising more” and “meet new people” at the same time. From an emotional standpoint, there may be some underlying beliefs that are making it harder to achieve your goals. It may be a good idea to consult with a mental health professional to process any obstacles that may be between you and your resolutions.
By Derek Russell, MA, NCC – Neurofeedback Therapist, Technician at The Better Brain Center. If you would like to get in touch with Derek please call 833-964-8483 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.